Over the last fifty years that I have been alive I have had many occasions to watch family members and friends get married. There are more than a few things I have learned about weddings because of this, however adhering to the most popular traditions and superstitions associated with weddings are the most important. Why? because it happens that a lot of people who choose to disregard these seemingly absurd and almost comical steps to get to the alter have paid a heavy price for their disregard for these customs that have been in place for a long time. The Wedding Dress We've all heard that it's not good luck for a groom to be able to see the bride dressed in her wedding gown before the ceremony. It's a long-standing custom that the bride should not wear her wedding dress in entirety prior to her vows. That is why you almost never see a bride wearing a wedding dress with her wedding gown, shoes, veil, etc. on. One of my female college buddies knew a young lady who defied tradition to show her entire wedding dress to her bridal party in order to have "some photographs taken with her friends" prior to the wedding. So she said, most of the people in attendance thought she was just displaying her style. Some people were astonished to see that the dress was unusually tight. Soon gossiping began to spread the news. My college friend informed me that the groom didn't attend the wedding the next day, she said she phoned him and told him his bride appeared "fatter or even more pregnant" after having seen her dress the night before. While my friend was not being rude, she felt sorry the groom had done everything to protect his wife (she said she was virgin). He also abstained from having a sexual encounter with her. Even though he didn't see the bride's wedding gown and his sister said she had noticed a sudden increase in weight. The woman was not known for her habit of eating too much or fluctuate in weight. There was something more to this story, I think that my friend called me , and that the phone call was the catalyst for the groom's decision to cancel. The call wouldn't be made if the bride hadn't laughed at the long-standing tradition. The Wedding Shoes The superstitious say that it is bad luck to wear shoes that aren't intended to be worn for weddings. They believe it's also lucky to not wear the shoes prior to the ceremony, or to ever wear them again after the bride and groom have taken their vows. The shoes should be taken and burn them after the wedding ceremony. Do not give them away. The custom dates to the latter part of the 1800s and was probably started by shoe retailers. This may be true. My friend told me about a friend of mine who married Nashville Wedding Venues twenty years ago was blessed with bad luck because he ignored this strange superstition. Ben was a shrewd guy who was not one to waste money. He had bought some expensive shoes for special occasions, such as funerals and weddings, in the year prior to being married. When my friend went out with him to help choose an outfit for his own wedding, he inquired of Ben about shoes. Ben informed him that he would put on his most used shoes, because they were brand new and had never been worn. Since at the time, a new pair of quality shoes could easily cost more than one hundred dollars and Ben felt that money would be better used elsewhere. My friend informed Ben about the customs of marriage about Destination Wedding Venue shoes that he'd learned about from his mother, father and grandparents. My friend took the advice himself, got married with no issues and has been married for the last four years. Although the couple is very religious about weddings but there have been few divorces in their family and many happy marriages. Ben wore his "best pair of shoes" on the wedding day despite the warnings I gave him from a friend. Amazingly, his bride had her own idea for wedding footwear. She decided to wear sneakers for the wedding in a sort of joke to suggest she could be a bride who ran away. The joke backfired. Ben and his family were extremely insulted by the shoes' presence and a dispute ensued during the reception. This lasted throughout the honeymoon and for some time after. The argument reached its climax when the family members looked at the wedding pictures. The photographer was obsessed with the bride's shoes and continued taking pictures featuring the shoes. The guests were captured displaying a scowl on their face when they talked to the bride and gazed down at her shoes. The couple split up and divorced after just three months of their wedding. I suggest that we include wearing sneakers for weddings to the list khoedep of bad luck for wedding shoes, attire and options. Placing coins (especially one that is silver) in your wedding shoes is thought to be extremely good luck. While this is primarily for the bride, I believe that the groom has nothing to risk by trying it as well. The practice dates back to the "Something Old, Something New, Something Borrowed, Something Blue, A Sixpence in your Shoe" wedding customs from the past of England. The bride would receive small tokens of appreciation from family and friends to carry on her special day. These items were presented shortly before the Umkehrosmose wedding started and weren't wedding gifts only mementos that reminded the bride of her family and friends who care about her and support the decision she made to marry. Write for Us Something Old is usually an item that was brought by a bride from an earlier wedding. It represents a sign of good luck or a happy marriage. This is a gift intended to pass on the luck and fortune of the bride prior to it. The bride will receive something New, believed to bring good fortune and bring optimism in the near future. Something Borrowed is said to be a symbol of happiness shared with the bride by her family and friends. Any happiness that they have enjoyed they will loan to the bride as she creates her own happy memories. The purpose of Something Blue is to make sure that the wedding of the bride is one of honest true love, pure fidelity, and purity. A Sixpence (Coin) to be placed in Your Shoe, is believed to bring financial blessings to the wedding. Very few brides are able to ignore this custom, which is considered by many to be the most significant of all. One of my acquaintances did. She wanted a wedding ceremony that included only her, the groom and a priest. The majority of the bride's family and acquaintances, along with those of the groom were opposed to the wedding because of the age difference between the bride (who was young) and the groom (who was 35 years old older). Because he was wealthy and his family was well-known in the region they lived in, most of the groom's family members believed they were gold miners. But, the bride was a recipient of money, however it was not new money. The problem was that her decision to get married was more about the fact that she wanted to have the prestige of marrying an extended family with high social standing than true love. Anyway, she decided to punish all those who were against her marriage and show the wrongness of them by insisting the wedding ceremony be held in a park that was open to the public with no guests. The couple used the money that a huge wedding would have cost on extravagant honeymoon. The bride broke almost every superstition or the wedding customs. A friend presented her with tokens to show her gratitude for her age and suggested that she bring them to the wedding. The friend was not able to attend the ceremony, regardless of invitation. She believed that the tokens would bring luck to the couple. They could have accomplished their duty if the items were brought to the small ceremony by the bride. They were not. Even though it appeared like an idyllic marriage immediately following and shortly after the honeymoon, they divorced within five years, due to irreconcilable differences. The Wedding Rings It is believed that Fridays are unlikely to purchase the wedding ring. This is due to the fact that it is a sale tradition day and the set of rings is greatly discounted. It is even more unluckier wearing a wedding band for more than just taking it off. I've heard of about dozen instances where the groom or bride were wearing their wedding ring (for whatever reason) for several days or even hours before the wedding and could not for the life of them remove it. These arguments caused physical and emotional discord, and ultimately led to four couples being divorced prior to the wedding ceremony. It could be millions of different reasons behind those splits but why would anyone to risk it? There are additional things to be aware of when it comes to wedding rings. A loose ring may cause a wife or husband leaving the marriage bed. They could forget the meaning of the vows of marriage. Too tight can lead to an unhappy marriage that is accompanied by number of arguments and fights. Left hand is believed to be lucky and the ring should be worn on it. The tradition dates back centuries to the time when the majority of work was performed using the right hand, making it appear older or dirty than the left. In certain countries, a plain wedding band is considered lucky. Rings with cultural or religious icons is considered to be very lucky for those who are from the Celtic tradition. Although I can't say that I know of any person who has ever argued over an unadorned or plain ring for their wedding There have been numerous disputes over the cost and design of wedding ring. This could signal an absence of character on the part either of the bride or groom. Dropping a wedding ring is the most well-known superstition. Superstition states that the groom or bride who falls and drops their wedding engagement ring in the course of the ceremony will be the first one to die. If the ring comes to a halt on the memorial stone or in a remembrance in the chapel or church it is likely. Wow! Make sure not to drop the ring.